Friendship Breakups

Let's all be honest, while actual breakups hurt A LOT, friendship breakups just hurt a little more. Some friendship breakups are just distancing to the point where you don't talk anymore, others are just constant fighting until someone breaks; honestly both are just as messy as the other. I've only ever officially broken up with like 2 friends in my entire life. One girl in middle school, and some guy in my freshman year of high school. With the girl in middle school, she would CONSTANTLY make me choose between her or my other friends. She would fight with one of my closest friends all the time and expected me to fight her battles with people making fun of her. I mean ofc, defend your friends but not every dang time, she's gotta learn to fight her own battles too. Anyways, I had to end it because there was no way I was only 12 years old and being stressed. So when I tried to end it, I talked to this random girl about it... AND SHE TOLD HER BEFORE I COULD. SO the next day when I had class with her, it was so awkward and we had assigned seats right next to each other so imagine that. But, all in all, that was my first friendship breakup. The next one was not as eventful though. I was really close with this guy and then one day when we were on face-time he said something  that... well let's just say, it's not appropriate for someone like him specifically to say (iykyk). ANYWAYS, I had to drop it IMMEDIATELY, so I completely ignored him and when he asked why I ignored him, I confronted him on all that he said. Again, it was totally awkward the next day at school but at least we didn't have assigned seats! Basically the point of this is, friendship breakups SUCK. They're always just so uncomfortable and weird because you never thought you'd be doing this with that specific person. But it doesn't mean you have to hate that person. You can still cherish the happy memories/moments that you had with them. Also, I feel like with these friendship breakups, it teaches you how to be a better friends. You see what bothers you in a person, and you learn not to do those things with other people. And in my case, I learned to not be so emotionally dependent on other people and not say inappropriate things 😀. Sometimes it's hard to end a friendship but from what I learned, if half of your other friends don't like them, there's definitely an issue. And also, if they keep you away from your other friends, that's definitely a red flag 🚩 It's easy to get blindsided by toxic friendships, especially when you're giving most of your attention to them specifically. Anyways, I feel like I'm ranting on at this point so see you guys in the next blog!